You're right Morph. Generally breastfed babies get fed on demand rather than to routine like bottle fed babies. The recommendation is to breastfeed 6 months to a year if possible. There's absolutely no benefit to still be breastfeeding at 4 year old though.

(11-22-2016, 10:54 AM)Chris Benoit Wrote: You're right Morph. Generally breastfed babies get fed on demand rather than to routine like bottle fed babies. The recommendation is to breastfeed 6 months to a year if possible. There's absolutely no benefit to still be breastfeeding at 4 year old though.

Unless you're trying to make a statement.

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The wife was/still is a wee bit, apprehensive about breastfeeding in public. One of her friends was told to stop feeding her baby, by an auld bastard, who spoke to her like absolute shite. Put her and my wife off, which is just wrong.

She breast feeds when I'm there now, because if anyone says anything, they'll be getting told to fuck off. She's nervous to do it on her own though, so she carries a couple of bottles of expressed stuff about.

She's got one of they bras that the front unclips, so you genuinely can't see anything but some folk are totally offended by it. Bizarre.

Thanks for the kind words Morph

(11-22-2016, 10:53 AM)Roger H. Sterling Wrote: Mums who just whip their tit out in the middle of Asda because "they can" and "it's natural" are just being provocative (imo).

Any evidence to support the assertion that women have the motivation of being deliberately provocative (provoking what?) as opposed to feeding their kid? From what I understand, breastfeeding isn't particularly comfortable, so not sure why you'd choose to invite leering/tutting from weirdos just for a laugh.

Provocative

Provoking Roger into rape

It's provocative, it gets the people going

(11-22-2016, 10:50 AM)Morph Wrote: Just seen the video, that kid is about 5

Sure I was on fish suppers at that age.

Speaking of fish suppers

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(11-22-2016, 10:37 AM)Roger H. Sterling Wrote: This is a tough one for me. I've got no issues with breastfeeding but there's something just not quite right about doing it in public. If it makes people uncomfortable and there's a more discreet way to do it, then why not do that? "It's the most natural thing in the world!" yeah, I know, and so is taking a shit, but I'd rather do that in private thanks, and I'm sure the general public appreciate me not shitting in the middle of a supermarket.

Breastfeeding older kids is a totally different kettle of fish and I think there's something seriously wrong with people who encourage their children to do that. It gets to a point where it's not about the kid anymore and it's more a statement. I don't believe in using children as a statement.

My post was really just about flagging up the oddball who breastfeeds older children. I don't even think it's a statement, more that it's about the mother not being able to let go of the fact their baby is growing up and trying to hold onto that. Proper weirdos.

(11-22-2016, 11:38 AM)Acey Wrote: Any evidence to support the assertion that women have the motivation of being deliberately provocative (provoking what?) as opposed to feeding their kid? From what I understand, breastfeeding isn't particularly comfortable, so not sure why you'd choose to invite leering/tutting from weirdos just for a laugh.

Just my general opinion. If you're a breast feeder and you're shopping in Asda and the kid is hungry you've got a few options. If you choose "whip my bare breast out in the supermarket so my kid can suck on it" when "politely and privately let me child suckle my teet under a blanket" is an option, then to me you're being deliberately provocative.

There's a whole host of mothers out there that feed their children from their breast in public and never get any bother. Then there's another group of women who seem to attract the wrong attention and moan about it on youtube whilst breastfeeding their 4 year old.

Unfortunately there's Khali's situation, where even when it's done with decency, some folk have a problem with it. Can't ever imagine asking someone to stop what they're doing because I didn't like it think that's old people mentality that.

I will say I think it's a bit disingenuous to claim you've got absolutely no idea how anyone could be remotely offended by such a natural thing. I think it's pretty clear why some people don't like it. I don't think they have the right to chastise a mother feeding their child, they should just take their offence and go somewhere else, but it's not exactly difficult to see why it's an issue for some. Can't stand the faux ignorance from those that want to come across as holier than thou.

(11-22-2016, 11:41 AM)Alan Partridge Wrote: Provoking Roger into rape  

Bit weird that Alan.

(11-22-2016, 11:47 AM)Walter Sobchak Wrote: My post was really just about flagging up the oddball who breastfeeds older children. I don't even think it's a statement, more that it's about the mother not being able to let go of the fact their baby is growing up and trying to hold onto that. Proper weirdos.

Did you watch the video? She's on a "mission" to normalise breast feeding older children. It's absolutely a statement. She's posting videos on youtube of her feeding her 4 year old son. Why? Because she was in the middle of a video and the boy just had to eat? Nah. She's using her son and her situation to make statements online. I don't think that's right.

(11-22-2016, 11:47 AM)Walter Sobchak Wrote: My post was really just about flagging up the oddball who breastfeeds older children. I don't even think it's a statement, more that it's about the mother not being able to let go of the fact their baby is growing up and trying to hold onto that. Proper weirdos.

The standard reason for them is to maintain a connection with the kids. Load of shite, 4 year olds want you to read to them, play games, paint. How much of her time is wasted campaigning for shite like this that would be better spent engaging with her children?

It's all for her, that's for sure.

(11-22-2016, 11:59 AM)Chris Benoit Wrote: The standard reason for them is to maintain a connection with the kids. Load of shite, 4 year olds want you to read to them, play games, paint. How much of her time is wasted campaigning for shite like this that would be better spent engaging with her children?

(11-22-2016, 12:03 PM)Amnesiac Wrote: It's all for her, that's for sure.

My nephew is 5. He's a smart, intelligent, switched on guy. It would be weird as fuck if he was sucking on my sisters tit at the dinner table.

That women isn't breastfeeding her 4 year old for the child's benefit. She's doing it for herself. I'm not saying that ever woman who openly breastfeeds in public is doing it for a reaction, but I'm not buying into the "IF THE KID DOESN'T GET 50CCs OF TIT MILK STAT IT'S GOING TO DIE".

Sad as it is, we live in a prudish society and bare breasts is a bit of a taboo for some. Not respecting that is just the same as not respecting a mother feeding her child.

I've got no problem with it, but it's like taking a shit in public.

It's an utterly banal act to anyone not involved, ie mum and baby. Anyone not involved who gives it a second thought has issues.

(11-22-2016, 11:56 AM)Roger H. Sterling Wrote: Did you watch the video? She's on a "mission" to normalise breast feeding older children. It's absolutely a statement. She's posting videos on youtube of her feeding her 4 year old son. Why? Because she was in the middle of a video and the boy just had to eat? Nah. She's using her son and her situation to make statements online. I don't think that's right.

My post was badly worded. She is definitely making a statement; a ridiculous one as well. I suppose with all these oddballs there is an underlying need to make some sort of a point which is coupled with them not being able to let go of the baby growing up.

(11-22-2016, 12:08 PM)Roger H. Sterling Wrote:

My nephew is 5. He's a smart, intelligent, switched on guy. It would be weird as fuck if he was sucking on my sisters tit at the dinner table.

That women isn't breastfeeding her 4 year old for the child's benefit. She's doing it for herself. I'm not saying that ever woman who openly breastfeeds in public is doing it for a reaction, but I'm not buying into the "IF THE KID DOESN'T GET 50CCs OF TIT MILK STAT IT'S GOING TO DIE".

Sad as it is, we live in a prudish society and bare breasts is a bit of a taboo for some. Not respecting that is just the same as not respecting a mother feeding her child.

Quite a few different issues going on though; breastfeeding a 4 yr old is not the same as breastfeeding, but you're kind of conflating them in your response?

(11-22-2016, 11:53 AM)Roger H. Sterling Wrote: Just my general opinion. If you're a breast feeder and you're shopping in Asda and the kid is hungry you've got a few options. If you choose "whip my bare breast out in the supermarket so my kid can suck on it" when "politely and privately let me child suckle my teet under a blanket" is an option, then to me you're being deliberately provocative.

What if you don't have a blanket with you? I've never looked closely enough to check tbh, but I'm fairly sure you can be discrete about it without covering your baby's head. The connotations that come with "whip my bare breast out" (of mothers going "WAHEEEEEY" as they rip their top open in the frozen aisle ) probably don't reflect reality. Like I said, I can't speak for breastfeeding mothers, but I really doubt that the vast majority of them want attention while doing it, let alone want to be provocative (of what?).

Quote:I will say I think it's a bit disingenuous to claim you've got absolutely no idea how anyone could be remotely offended by such a natural thing. I think it's pretty clear why some people don't like it. I don't think they have the right to chastise a mother feeding their child, they should just take their offence and go somewhere else, but it's not exactly difficult to see why it's an issue for some. Can't stand the faux ignorance from those that want to come across as holier than thou.

It's also a bit disingenuous to suggest that anyone here has claimed that they have no idea how anyone could be offended. A few of us have said that they're idiots/weirdos for being offended, and that your comparison with taking a shite in the middle of Asda is stupid.

(11-22-2016, 12:08 PM)Roger H. Sterling Wrote: Sad as it is, we live in a prudish society and bare breasts is a bit of a taboo for some. Not respecting that is just the same as not respecting a mother feeding her child.

No, I don't think I'm obliged to show respect for views that I find idiotic.

Are you not meant to stop breastfeeding once the child can walk - c8months-1year? That was my sisters take on it anyway with her son.